 Imagine for just a moment, if you will, that you are lying in your bed. Your mouth-watering lover is in the room with you, stroking your body, teasing you, tempting you mercilessly, and you are burning with desire. You want nothing more than to reach out and pull their body down on top of you, drive them into you and finally end this delicious torture. But you can't reach out... your wrists are tied with silk ropes to the headboard and your ankles are pressed back over your head; also bound the same way, leaving you completely revealed and quivering. You think for a passing second that you should be embarrassed about your position, but nothing matters right now except how incredible everything he is doing to you feels. His lips make contact with your flesh, your erect nipples and your throbbing, aching clitoris. You pull at your binds as your body writhes in unsurpassable ecstasy. Many orgasms later, as you lay limp and exhausted, he frees you from the silk ropes. Your sore muscles are relieved, but a smile returns to your lips as he presses his erection against you, and you wrap your freed arms and legs around his body... it's not nearly over yet.
Welcome to the inner workings of Lady Zombie's sex life and kinky lifestyle. How did it feel to fill my shoes for a moment? Hopefully, you were an enthralled as I was when I experienced the role of the bottom for one of the first times as told in the first-person story you just read. To truly be a fantastic and skilled Dominatrix (Top) in a relationship, you must be willing to experience a submissive (bottom) role... at least once.
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One of the greatest forms of kinky play is erotic bondage, also known as sensual bondage. The pleasure and appeal of erotic bondage is found in many aspects of the art: the response of the person being tied/bound (moaning, gyrating, struggling, writhing, etc.), the deepened trust you must have in each other to engage in this form of play (this can be motivational for many couples), the visual (experienced bondage practitioners have been known to be very crafty with their ropes and the ties they use on their partners), and last, but definitely not least, it enhances your other sensations a hundredfold (being unable to shift from a set position makes everything else occurring more extreme, especially when blindfolded as well)!
There are so many different kinds of ropes to be used: silk, hemp, nylon, etc. When you're just starting out, it might be wise to select a rope that will not be too abrasive to the tender flesh of the wrists, ankles and other body parts when your bottom pulls on their binds. Ropes are not the only item necessary to incorporate bondage into your sex life. You can use Velcro or leather wrist cuffs, which are much easier. You can use duct tape. I am a rather big fan of latex duct tape, which sticks only to itself, not to your flesh. Any of these items can be found in your local sex shop or fetish boutique. Can't tie knots? There are hundreds of books available on tying knots specifically for a kinky situation and sensual bondage play. There are cheap ways to play, too. Use wisely chosen household items (shirt ties, scarves, etc.) You'll find that as you play out more bondage fantasies with your submissive or lover, you'll find more creative ways to tie them that will be enjoyable to you both!
Safety must always be in the forefront of your mind when practicing bondage. Don't play when tired or under the influence of drugs or alcohol. Don't try things you aren't sure about or that seem too risky without proper knowledge and experience. The front of the neck should not receive pressure of any kind. Never leave a person that is tied up alone. Remember to remain aware of the circulation of your submissive. Numbness and excessive tingling can be a sign of poor circulation as a result of a tie that may be too tight or a limb left in an uncomfortable position for too long. When engaging in erotic bondage play, the submissive's word is law. If they are in pain and ask you to stop, you must release them. It is always a great idea to keep a pair of scissors nearby in the event of an emergency. And, as in any form of fetish play, a safeword must always be chosen and agreed upon by both parties.
Now that you have a better concept of how a sensual bondage experience can play out and how thrilling it can be, why KNOT go out and experiment a little... if you're not all TIED up, that is.
Hugs, Kisses & Triple Sixes,
Lady Zombie
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